Monday, October 14, 2013

Peace of mind

Peace of mind is not something that is dependent on a place or a people. But we have come to associate this with surroundings to a large extent. We attribute it to certain places because it could be due to the fact that your self disappears in those places. You associate it being with some people because your self disappears in their presence.

For example, you feel at peace when you are inside a temple. There can be several scientific reasons attributed to this like the sound vibrations and all that. They may or may not be true. But over and beyond that it is something about your self finding its place there. It is a place where there is no conflicts or confrontation or even the thought of survival.  There is no other person who is there to challenge you or fight with you. The place is guaranteed to be free of conflicts. It has been designed only to be silent with yourself and no challenges are offered whatsoever. Thus you immediately attribute it to the place.

Now contrast it with your house where you are in a constant state of bickering with some one there. This may also be true with your office where you have certain difference of opinion with your colleagues. All of this makes it not so good to feel when you are in those places, specifically with those people.

Place and people thus matters a lot in finding peace with oneself.

But does it mean you should always be finding the right place and people? What if the place turns into a misery over time? For example, the same temple could become a haven for illegal things and once you get more intimate knowledge of it, a conflict arises, doubts arise and your eyes are now clouded enough to see the wrong things and people.

So, where is this peace of mind ?

We saw above that peace of mind is not in the things outside of you. It is something that you have to realize within you. It is always inside you. If you decide to stay calm irrespective of the surroundings,  If you decide to not confront or conflict all the time in your head about others or the things around you, you will have peace of mind. If you allow life to flow and not resist, you will be left with peace. If you interact with others with the idea that you have to leave them in peace at the end of your conversation then you will be happy. If you have the punishing mentality, if you are on a fault finding mission with everything you deal with, then you will not be at peace with yourself.

Many a time you may not know that you are one such person who finds the wrong bunch of things with others. You may always think you are right and everyone around you are wrong and trying to conjure up evil designs. If you shed this and stop looking at others or bothering to think what they will and let them live in their way, it becomes easy for you. Then you are only left with you and no one else to deal with. In fact when you do this, the YOU also will not be there as it is a mythical thing called EGO created in your head which is mostly about reflections of others thoughts as conjured up by your mind within you, about you and so on. Its a complex unidentifiable thing that sits within you and directs all your decisions as if it were You. Since it is within you and not a thing like your small intestine that can be x-rayed, it is hard to believe one such thing exists. But it does. It could be a subtle layer of your brain. And because it is hard to find, you start thinking that that is YOU. When others disappear, world disappears, YOU also disappear.

If you want to find this out, sit tight in a corner left with yourself initially. You will find your mind is filled with thoughts of others and their thoughts about you and your reactions to that and so on. This is like a complex web. The more you sit quite and still, the catharsis happens and you become more and more clear. You get released from the EGO Maya better and better. You have to do this , practice this until a point all of those things disappear and the REAL you is what is left.

You will realize that by yourselves.


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